I’m starting to understand why the prophets of the Old Testament, and even many of the Apostles of the New Testament didn’t own much of anything except what they carried with them. Stuff ties you down.
The older I get, the more I want to simplify and downsize. Stuff takes a lot of time to deal with and keep up with, doesn’t it?
Don’t get me wrong. I like most of the stuff I have. I think I just have too much of it. I think I’ll do what I should have done years ago and give most of it away.
I read an article recently about keeping only those things that bring you joy. Then I saw a social media comment about this article. The comment was something like, “So I threw away my electric bill.” Would that it were that simple!
Stuff starts to lose its hold on us when we’ve walked through the valley of grief. Well, most stuff. When you’ve lost someone you love, you might be like I am and find it hard to part with what they left behind. I have a whole room full of my daughter’s stuff.
Sometimes I make myself go in there and get one or two things to give away. It’s really awful though. I can still smell her scent in there. It’s all I can do to stand the sorrow.
Part of me wants to give all her things away so someone else can use them. Part of me wants to leave things the way they are. I don’t have her anymore, but at least I have the things she used and touched. Many things that were special to her.
I don’t know that there is a right answer to the question of whether to or not to. I only know that when the time comes, I’ll know what to do. I don’t think you should force things like that.
I only mention this because I know there are other people struggling with the same thing. Dear friend, be at peace about this and let your Heavenly Father walk you through it. He knows you, and He knows the gentle way to lead you through this – through everything.
Until He shows us when and how, I think I’ll start giving away some of the things Julie kept that weren’t necessarily precious. There are so many people who could enjoy what she had, and I think that would have made her very happy. I think she would want me to do that. Yes, I can start with the regular stuff.
Maybe the whole thing is a process and not a destination. Sometimes these things take a long time to complete, and that’s okay.
While we do our process, I’ll be praying for you. I’ll pray the Lord’s blessings on you who also have sad hearts, and carry grief. I’ll pray that the Lord will be close to you and whisper His love to you every moment of every day of your life.